http://www.sciam.com/article.cfm?id=the-secret-to-raising-smart-kids

From the page: “The Secret to Raising Smart Kids
Hint: Don’t tell your kids that they are. More than three decades of research shows that a focus on effort not on intelligence or ability is key to success in school and in life”

I saw something similar to this before:
How Not to Talk to Your Kids

Both of which I found via the always excellent pseudonym